How are the conversations going. We want to baptize a child without an interview

To be honest, in general, I have always been wary not only of her, but also of the most murdered priest, her husband, Daniil Sysoev. For some reason, one word on the annotations of his books always repulsed me instantly - "missionary". It immediately seemed to me - well, there was a missionary here for us, now he will actively convert, we have to run.)) Yesterday in the store, unexpectedly, the saleswoman says to me - Have you read Daniil Sysoev's book "Marry a Muslim"? I say "No. And I think - and I'm not going to. And the saleswoman with enthusiastic eyes, let me retell how beautiful and detailed the author there proved and showed everything that is needed, and not even about "marriage", but about how and through what the Lord acts in fate)) I am the title of the book at least and remembered, but still decided that, perhaps, I would not read it.
Of all the books of Daniil Sysoev - and he seems to have managed to write a lot - I read only an excerpt (very small) from almost a brochure " In simple words about the mystery of the Trinity. "I didn’t really understand anything there and didn’t learn anything new, but I noted that the style was written beautifully. Sometimes even somehow close to Old Slavonic - the language and ear were pleasant.
And today, by chance, I stumbled upon an interview with his widow, Yulia Sysoeva, on the net. For some reason, it always seemed to me that the widows of priests, and even famous ones, are some not very pleasant women ... That's where this comes from in my head? Everything that I had come across about her before, I brushed aside - I was neither interested, nor even just curious. In general, to be honest, it seemed to me that she was sitting there somewhere in the wilderness with her three daughters and knew nothing about a normal life.
I was wrong. It's so narrow, it turns out, I'm judging about strangers- I came up with something for myself somewhere, and for years I zealously guard this delusion ...
Today I read the entire interview with her and saw that she is an interesting, intelligent young woman.
At the same time, she resolved another bewilderment in her head - about the fact that allegedly Orthodox people should stay at home and tenderly love only wooden Russian architecture, yes chimes, and instead of tourism, pilgrimages to Diveevo, then to Pechery, in a wrinkled skirt and wrapped in a scarf to the very nose. And it turns out that it isn't! Orthodox are also normal people))
By the way, I was often embarrassed that for some reason women look very ugly. Orthodox, kind, sympathetic, but I looked at them and thought with great embarrassment - but why is her skirt so ugly and wrinkled? why does she smell so bad? and why doesn’t she smear her face with cream, because it’s so clearly visible that she has terribly dry skin? why doesn't she wash her hair, it's already so greasy? And why not comb your hair beautifully? Let not seductive, but just beautiful? Is it forbidden? ... Etc. And what I love to travel, wear beautiful dresses, styling my hair with foam and a hair dryer, perfumed with Amor-Amor perfume and wearing multi-colored leather bracelets, it gradually began to lead me more and more, as they say, into temptation ... But today Yulia Sysoeva directly reassured me on this matter))) Here is what she writes about it.

I like to see something new, interesting. Look different countries, cities, other cultures. I love outdoor activities, for example, skiing. I would not want to limit myself to four walls or a cottage. Maybe pilgrimages are enough for some, but those who argue that this is the only way to relax, that the Orthodox cannot get acquainted with other cultures - these are some patterns. Imposing a way of life or thinking about what Orthodox woman you can only go on pilgrimages - this is also a template. I know great amount active Orthodox families who go on holiday abroad.
Yes, all these patterns were imposed very actively: these scarves, skirts, unkempt hair. Sometimes you read some forms - and you are simply surprised. I don't know what women are thinking when they talk about whether deodorants can be used. Of course not. You have to stink later, and it will be very Orthodox! And so many copies break around such nonsense. And people don't think about it.
And this ritual and pharisaic religion, which happens not only among the Orthodox, by the way, very well frees a person from responsibility. In such a belief, you do not need to use your brain, make an independent choice. It is much easier to perform a cloud of rituals and with a clear conscience to think that you are all of yourself and live correctly. And there is no need to make any effort on your heart, on your soul, to force yourself to love your neighbors, to do good deeds. And the rituals are overgrown with new rituals, and we get interpretation upon interpretation, and so on endlessly.

The murder of Father Daniil Sysoev in the Church of the Apostle Thomas more than two years ago shocked not only the Church, but, it seemed, the whole country. But, probably, the life of his wife, mother Yulia, changed the most. Now she helps the widows of priests, publishes books by Father Daniel, and continues his missionary work. She and her three daughters celebrate Father Daniel's death as his birthday, as his victory.

REFERENCE
Julia SYSOEVA was born in 1973. Graduated from the Faculty of Pharmacy of the Medical Institute. In 1991 she was baptized. In 1994, she married seminarian Daniil Sysoev. Author of the books "Notes of the Popadya", "God does not pass by." Raises three daughters. President of the charitable foundation "Missionary Center named after Priest Daniil Sysoev".

Not just LLC

There is no more time - it was not enough before. It just came to an understanding that you need to start living anew. Not just to be a mother to your children, to deal with your own problems, but to go beyond these limits.

Before, I belonged more to my husband. I was with him, was involved with him, served, as they say. And then, having received the so-called "freedom", I felt the need for even greater realization. Yes, I have written books before, but I understood that I have a father, Daniel, whom I must meet, cook dinner for him, wash things - such everyday moments that every wife does. It pulls you into a certain cycle.

- When did you feel the need to create a charitable foundation to help the widows of priests?

Even during the life of Father Daniel. Somehow I came up with the idea that it is necessary to create a fund to help priestly families, widowed mothers, those families of clergymen who find themselves in a difficult situation. I shared with Father Daniel. He said, "Here, do it." I thought for a long time and decided that no, I won’t do this, I don’t know where to start and what to grab onto.

After his death, I remembered this, but still did not understand what could be done. And when it became necessary to publish his books, I was advised to create a fund. Just open "OOO"? Something didn't seem right to me. And we created a fund to help, began to publish books and immediately look for mothers. As a rule, first-hand information about a family in need is diocesan information. If the information does not come from the diocese, we call the diocese, the deans, the parish priests and find out if there is such a priest, such a family, whether they really have such and such a situation. We donate to mothers from book income and from donations from philanthropists.

- But why do we need a fund? Doesn't the Church care about widowed mothers?

It is not customary to talk about it. Unfortunately, many believe that if something negative happens in the Church, it is necessary to remain piously silent, all the same, it’s good with us, “God save,” but is it possible to discuss the hierarchy?

When a father dies and a mother stays with the children, even if she continues to receive her husband's salary, she is still thrown out of the life of the parish. I know many examples, because we communicate a lot with different widows. There are cases when a mother, a widow, was asked to vacate a church house. And she has nowhere to go, because they repaired this house with their own money, patched it up, built it, they didn’t think that it was a church house, not theirs. And then they sent another priest, and he, too, with his family - where should he live? How to solve such a problem? Mothers are leaving, renting an apartment, roaming around the corners, and with children. One went to Vladyka for help, he blessed her to find funds and buy a house. Vladyka told another matushka that these were “her problems, not the problems of the Church.”

When I encountered this problem, I realized that there must be such organizations, and not just one, because our business is a drop in the ocean. It seems to me that questions about widows should be decided at the highest church level. Probably, if the priest belongs to the Church, then the family belongs to it. It is impossible to say that there is no help at all, but it is not enough.

- Do you think something needs to be done to change the situation?

I understand what I have to do for this, I see my specific tasks. Why think about other people and their capabilities? “And if I were president, I would now do such things, wow, turn around, help everyone, everyone would roll around like cheese in butter.” I think that everywhere there are human weaknesses and infirmities. And we faced condemnation of our activities, that our foundation is doing something wrong, making mistakes somewhere. I agree, they took something beyond their strength, they did it wrong somewhere, but something needs to be done at least, and not just condemned.

- Maybe you should draw some experience from "how it was before the revolution"?

It is a delusion that before the revolution everything was cool and great in our country, including in the Church. In fact, it was she who weeded out the sheep from the wolves. Based on what I read, that system was very unhealthy, which is probably part of the reason why the revolution happened. Marriages between the clergy, "affiliated brides," when a priest dies or becomes very old, a seminarian is sent to his daughter, a bride-to-be is arranged, then a wedding, and the seminarian receives a "place" in his parish. It is impossible to revive such an estate, it destroys the Church. Yes, and there was no special concern for the families of priests - the main thing is to attach a son to a religious school at the age of nine, a bride at 17 could already be “overripe”.

Orthodox incubator

Our people do not know how to raise children. There are certain criteria, but there were too many years of godlessness, the people were in Egyptian captivity, and, probably, it should take about the same amount, forty years, to get rid of it. Our grandmothers and mothers, the traditions of the Soviet times do not allow the Orthodox family to overcome the old stereotypes. I, like everyone else, am in the same situation and break spears on the same. It seems to me that the emphasis should not be on raising a good housewife and wife. It is much more important to give the child the opportunity to become a Christian. Not nominal Orthodoxy, but love in the heart, in the soul for Christ. It seems to me that if a girl will have God in the first place, then she does not need to specifically hammer in that “an Orthodox husband, a pious one is needed” - she simply cannot choose an unbelieving husband. Maybe I'm idealizing, I don't know. But what will she talk to him about, what can she have in common with an unbelieving guy? Of course, there are miracles, maybe he will be converted through her. But this is rather an exception to the rule.

There is such a “syndrome of a caring quow” that wants to protect the child from all sorts of dangers. And this happens not only because the parents are afraid for the child, that he will not resist the "worldly" temptations. Such a natural desire is to protect from a bad school or company, and this is what I do. Of course, I don't want my daughter to hang out with girls who only have cigarettes and parties on their minds. Although she sees how girls communicate with boys, and knows that she is close enough. I tell her that you will only ruin your life this way, you will not save it for your loved one, even if you are curious, you will get such an aftertaste ...

It is impossible to raise a child in a greenhouse, to put him in an “Orthodox” incubator, where teachers, doctors, and the camp are all Orthodox. I watched girls, and even boys, who grew up in very strict and closed Orthodox families where they never watched TV, never wore trousers, there was no secular communication. When they reached freedom, they immediately threw off their long skirts and ran to parties.

My eldest daughter had a period when she was very eager for various companies that were not useful to her, she even had a dream - to go to a nightclub. I gave her this opportunity: "Please go and have a cocktail." Found reliable friends with whom she went. And he says to me: “Listen, mom, it’s completely uninteresting. I looked at it - so what?

What is the difference between the family of a priest and the family of “ordinary believers” who also expect to live together until the end of their days?

If the husband belongs to the family, works for the family, then the priest can no longer do this. He is busy in the service and cannot serve to earn money, to provide for his family. It does not belong to children, wife. Even a very busy businessman can sometimes turn off his phone and just go somewhere with his family. The priest cannot do this. In one familiar family, the husband has a profession that is not in demand, and the wife has a well-paid job, and she cannot afford a leave of up to three years to care for a child. It turns out that the husband spends more time with the child, this is their choice. But in the family of a priest this is not possible.

- And even more so for a mother with many children ...

The children consume more effort, and the husband consumes more emotional energy. I am not a good educator: I don’t know how to arrange puppet theaters, draw with them, etc. Therefore, for me, taking care of children takes place at the level of taking-bringing-washing-fed. And the husband is a spiritual communication, you are waiting for him in the evening from the service, from work. It turns out that this is where realization takes place - either you don’t want to go beyond the framework of such a life, or you want to, but there is simply no way. But rather, you don’t feel like it, because you feel satisfaction, fulfillment, you spin in it like a squirrel in a wheel.

The price of victory

This is Father Daniel's birthday, this is how we celebrate it, and not as a commemoration, although, of course, we serve a memorial service. We do not perceive this as a tragic departure from life, death. During his lifetime, he always corrected when someone spoke about death: “He didn’t die, because souls perish, but this person passed into eternal life.”

This is his victory. The realization of this event came to me on the first anniversary. I overcame this desire to mourn and be killed for a person as a human being, probably, it is difficult to understand, looking from the outside. As paradoxical as it sounds, I no longer accept condolences. I cannot grieve for the man who exchanged this narrow life for a reality and fullness disproportionate to it. I think that dragging him back into this life is selfishness. He himself always fled to heaven, strove there himself and called on others.

Right now I am working on a book of memoirs about him. And I rediscover this person for myself, I look at him not as a wife, but with completely different eyes. I make many amazing discoveries by getting other people's testimonies about him. And again, I understand that here, in this life, he was simply cramped. And before that I grow and grow, swim with big strokes. Because I feel comfortable here, it’s good, I want to live. And he had a strong love for God, so he wanted to run to Him. I didn't understand this at all.

Many who are engaged in helping others, especially in real service, sooner or later develop a burnout syndrome or just depression. Did Father Daniel experience something similar?

I understand the "burnout syndrome" a little differently: "shone to others, I burn myself" - like a candle. A person does not think about his health, about getting enough sleep, but other spiritual forces come to him. I know one priest who died at the altar: he confessed, went to the altar, feeling unwell, and died there. It is, of course, a happy ending. I think if Father Daniel had not been honored with a martyr's death, he would have "burned out at work" just like that.

- What is your attitude towards the man who shot at Father Daniel?

I've heard people talking about how they would tear it up. with my own hands. I didn't have those feelings. I forgot about him and I don’t think, there is no desire to look into his eyes. The name of the unrepentant sinner is not written in the book of life, there is no memory of him, as if he did not exist.

The official version is that he was killed, and the customers are unknown. But in connection with the rethinking that I spoke about, how can there be a desire for justice or revenge, if in this way my husband received the martyrdom he dreamed of?

Svetlana ULYANOVA

The widow of the murdered priest Yulia revealed to MK the secrets of his personal and public life

Murdered priest Daniil Sysoev.

The very next day, the news feeds were full of different versions what happened. And to the temple, which Father Daniel erected from scratch, crowds of people reached out.

What kind of person was the murdered priest, who predicted his imminent death, what did the deceased think about? last years- in a frank interview with MK, the widow of the deceased, Yulia Sysoeva.

We met Yulia in the same church where her husband was killed. A tall young girl drove up in a scarlet foreign car. Outwardly, Julia is not at all like her mother. A black quilted jacket with fur, a straight skirt just above the knee, a fashionable sweater, a neat knitted hat instead of a scarf on the head, an expensive iPhone in hand ...

Secret wedding

- It's simple. I was hosting a party at my house, and a friend of mine suggested: “Do you want to take one good guy with us?” Father Daniel then studied at the seminary, I graduated from the medical institute, the pharmaceutical faculty. Well, they brought him to me.

- A party and a seminarian are, to put it mildly, incompatible concepts.

- Apparently, the new guest impressed you that evening?

- Father Daniel did not make the slightest impression on me. Rather, I produced it. Because he immediately went on the offensive, they say, when we meet, where we go and so on. So gradually, a relationship began.

- It seemed to me that all clergymen are modest people, even reserved ones.

- No, they are ordinary guys, funny, adequate.

- And how did the seminarian Sysoev court him?

- How all young people care.

- That is, flowers, cinema, cafes ...

- Well, yes. On the first date, he came with flowers. We often walked with him around Moscow.

How did you manage to find mutual language? You didn't have anything to do with the church, did you?

- I don't know how you can say about my attitude to the church... Well, at the age of 18 I was baptized. And at the age of 21, Daniel and I got married. They had only known each other for four months. Soon our daughter was born. We lived with Daniel for almost 15 years. We have three children. This is the minimum that we managed to give birth. What struck me was his extraordinary intellect.

- Did your parents calmly react to such a marriage?

- My parents took my marriage with hostility. They were outraged that my chosen one was a seminarian, and even from a priestly family! Socially unequal marriage! At that time, my father was engaged in business, he was the head of a large company. It was not clear to him why the daughter chose a man from another world as her husband. After all, dad made certain plans for me, he himself looked for suitors for me. As a result, I had to run away from my parents' house and secretly marry my fiancé.

- How did the groom's parents take it?

- They, too, were not delighted with the choice of their son. But I am a believer, so they took our marriage more loyally. At least that's what it looked like on the outside. Although I don't know how things really were. I didn't get into their heads. But they never accepted my father.

- But over time, your parents reconciled with Daniel?

- My parents began to communicate only with Daniel. But our parents never found a common language between themselves. They never spoke and still don't.

- Julia, did your husband spend a lot of time with his family?

- I used to spend a lot of time. And in the last three years he, one might say, had a marriage with the temple.

- It turns out that Father Daniel changed when he started building the temple?

I can't say that he has changed a lot. He has always been a goal oriented person. And in the first place for him was priestly ministry, and then everything else - house, wife, children. But when the construction of the parish and the temple began, he, to put it mildly, was not at all up to the family. He couldn't combine one with the other. He was literally torn to pieces. He was busy from early morning until late at night. I forgot about the weekend, there was not even a question of vacation. In addition to the temple, he was engaged in missionary projects, organized Bible studies. His missionary school also occupied much of his time.

Have you ever thought about leaving?

- Human weaknesses are inherent in all. We ordinary people, and not crazy saints, as many people think. Father Daniel and I also had disagreements, and in a fever I had similar thoughts. But there is a concept God's will". Believers always think: “Is this pleasing to God?” Even when I thought that was all, I could no longer live like this, I immediately pulled myself up, I understood that such behavior was not pleasing to God. I had to endure. Yes, my husband and I could quarrel, scatter around the rooms, take offense at each other, but in the end we still went to reconciliation. Problems modern people in selfishness. It is easier for people to break up if they do not enjoy life with each other. But marriage and family are labor and self-sacrifice.

- It is known that patriarchy reigns in the families of clergy. Father Daniel was a house builder?

- How did you rest?

- They loved to travel by car - they traveled around Russia, traveled a lot abroad. The role of the driver remained with me, Daniil acted as a navigator - he was perfectly oriented on the map. He began to drive a car only the last two years. Prior to that, I dealt with all automotive problems, up to buying a car. In general, Father Daniel was far from everyday problems. So I had to deal with problems that are traditionally placed on the shoulders of men. The fact is that Daniel was a man not of this world. He didn't even have time to take care of himself.

- The clergy did not condemn you for driving a car?

- Vice versa. Now most mothers drive a car and follow fashion.

- You have three daughters. Surely Father Daniel prepared the children for church service?

- Well, how do you imagine that the girls will serve at the church? We wanted our children to grow up as believers, but what they would become was not important to us. For example, the eldest dreams of being a journalist. And Daniel supported her in this.

- Was he a strict father?

- No, he even encouraged children to be pampered. In fact, he himself was big baby. Could fool around, have fun. Thanks to his easy nature, he easily converged with people, he had a lot of friends, people were drawn to him.

The death of the priest was predicted by the elder

- Death is the wrong word in Orthodoxy. Only the soul can die. Of course, Father Daniel foresaw his death. Three years ago, he went to an old man who predicted that Daniel would build a temple, but would not serve in it. The husband realized that trouble would soon happen to him. That's why I was in a hurry to live. He repeatedly repeated: “I’m afraid that I won’t be able to do much, so I can’t arrange rest and weekends for myself.” The words of that elder turned out to be prophetic.

- How did you react to his thoughts about imminent death?

- Yes, I did not react! I considered these statements foolishness. Moreover, Daniel always spoke about death as if in passing, even joking about it. Once I confessed to him that I had never attended a priestly funeral. He, as if by the way, threw: “Here you will be present on mine.” And after his death, I remembered another case. Nine years ago we sewed a linen vestment for him. Then he said in all seriousness: "I ask me to carry out the funeral service in this vestment." I didn't react. When he was gone, I remembered his words.

Did you fulfill his request?

- Performed. True, that vestment had long fallen into disrepair, but was kept in the temple. The only thing missing was a handrail and a belt. These details have been lost. On the day when Father Daniel was taken from the morgue, the handrails and the belt were found. They lay in the most visible place - on the altar. And yet another miracle happened at the cemetery. All 15 years that we lived with Daniel, I did not take off my finger gold ring with a small diamond that she brought from the Holy Land. It even grew into a finger. And on the way to the cemetery, a bouquet of purple irises fell under my feet. It was these flowers that Daniil brought me on my first date. The road to the cemetery was strewn with flowers, but there were no more irises among them. I realized that this bouquet was from him. Then I decided to give him a gift too. That ring had not been removed for many years, but this time I easily removed it and put it in his hand.

“When all of Moscow was talking about the murder of my husband, I was in the dark”

- Yes, I've had a premonition of something wrong for the last month. They say that dreams cannot be trusted. And on November 3, I dreamed that my husband had died. I told Daniel about the dream. He laughed: "Don't believe it, it's superstition." I know perfectly well that you can’t believe in signs, but then I got hooked on the idea - if a person dies in a dream, it means that he will live long. Did not work!

- In your last notes on the Orthodox website, you wrote that you did not have time to ask for forgiveness from each other.

- When people die, they always ask each other for forgiveness. Whether there is resentment or not, it doesn't matter. It's just a tradition. We didn't make it. On that day, we casually said goodbye: "Until the evening, bye." Called several times during the day. But I couldn’t find a place for myself, I wanted to come to the temple in the evening to pick up Father Daniel. Came the day before and picked it up. And that evening, it was as if someone did not let me in. Although I did not stop thinking: “We must go, we must go.” And at the same time, she cooked dinner, then put the children to bed, and somehow it didn’t work out. The last time I called him was 15 minutes before my death. He promised to arrive in 40 minutes. The second time I scored him exactly a minute after the shot. At 22.45 there was a shot, at 22.46 my call rang. I didn't understand why he didn't pick up the phone. Chatting with someone again? He promised to come...

I learned about the death of my husband an hour after the tragedy. Nobody called me to tell me what had happened. All of Moscow already knew, there was news on TV, but they simply forgot about me. Then people justified themselves: “We thought you were informed, we didn’t want to disturb you ...” If I had found out right away, I would have arrived immediately. And, perhaps, would have found him alive. And suddenly we could say goodbye? Well, maybe some people didn't like it...

Did he still live for a while?

He lived for another hour and a half. Breathed. It's a miracle! It's just that he never regained consciousness.

How did your children react to the news of their father's death?

- When I finally got to the temple at night, my eldest daughter called me: “Mom, is everything all right?” I said: "Dad was killed." There was a scream on the phone. And I told my middle daughter about everything in the morning.

- They asked why?

- Not. I liked the thought of one nun: “I never ask myself the question “why”, because it is impossible to enter into the providence of God.” The murder of Daniel is the providence of God, what else can be said ...

- Shortly before his death, threats were received against Daniil Sysoev.

- Threats began to arrive about three years ago. From the first dispute with Muslims. Although the initiators of the dispute were the Muslims themselves. Daniel never climbed on the rampage, he was summoned to this dispute. At first, he might have been afraid of the threats. Over time, he got used to, fought off, or something.

- There were no attacks on him?

- I don't know. Unlikely.

- Do you admit that he could hide something from you?

He didn't tell me everything. Maybe he didn't want to get hurt. But I knew for sure that there were things that he did not share with me.

- If you had a premonition of trouble, could you forbid him to engage in missionary work?

He wouldn't listen to me. Father Daniel led people to Christ, this was his goal. If I began to interfere, it would lead to conflict.

“He went to his house”

- The approval for the construction of the temple was given in the prefecture. But the agreement was only in words. Further, it was required to go through complex paperwork, which would take a lot of time. Daniel did not wait for the final verdict. He set up a shed. As a result, one instance came forward with a demand to take away the land. The fight began. Daniel then greatly undermined his health, but defended the land.

- Where did the ordinary priest get the money for the construction of the temple?

My life has been turned upside down. But I am calm for Father Daniel. Two days before his death, he constantly hummed the melody of the Spleen group. “... Farewell forever to the globe of the earth, / But we part with you. / With all the colorful foliage / I fall upside down ... Please don’t be afraid, / It happens to me, / Don’t worry about anything, / Close the lock ... Cover your head / I'm going home, I'm going home, I'm going home. This song turned out to be prophetic. Father Daniel said goodbye to the globe. And he went to his home. My husband always said: “Our homeland is not on earth, but in heaven…”

It's been two months since his death. What moments living together do you remember?

- At first, I scrolled in my head every day I lived with him. Now I decided not to bump into memories: this is not very useful for state of mind. You reminded me that 2 months have passed, but it seems to me that 5 years have passed, if not more. After his death, my life was oversaturated with various events. Sometimes I think: is this all happening to me? Am I dreaming or real? I think I'll wake up now and everything will return to its place.

- Do children often remember dad?

- The little one often asks. She is only two years old, she does not understand where he has gone. He sees his vestments and immediately: “Daddy, daddy…”

- Do you feel a lack of advice from your husband, do you need them?

- I need. For example, when problems arise with children, I say: “Well, help me, look what they are doing!” And imagine, help is felt. After all, you won’t ask directly, you won’t call “there”, but some signs exist. I know that he supports us.

We, secular people, often do not understand the devotion and self-giving that believers demonstrate in their service to God. Criminal investigations are also in the hands of secular authorities. But I would like to believe that the work of the investigators will be carried out with the same fanaticism with which the late father Daniil Sysoev devoted himself to his work. And it won't take a million Doku Umarov to finally name the killer and call him to account.

(the criminal shot him in the Moscow church of the Apostle Thomas on November 19, 2009) received a terrible continuation. Recall that the girls accused their stepfather of sexual harassment. And this week, a video appeared on the Internet, where one of the daughters talks about a whip and “shameful panties”, as if hinting at some kind of BDSM games that their stepfather allegedly involved them in.

Could all this horror really have happened to the daughters of a famous religious figure, a missionary, whose death is considered by many to be a martyr and whose canonization is being actively discussed?! One thought makes my hair stand on end.

And here is the girl herself - in the editorial office of MK. She is worried, tries her best not to burst into tears and asks to listen to her. “I will tell everything, everything, everything,” she says. - You will draw your own conclusions. I slandered my stepfather, but I had reasons for that.

Her story is sad and sad, and it seems that the murdered priest, by his very death, doomed the children to suffering and also enmity.

REFERENCE "MK": Sergei Stanislavsky is the main witness in the case of the murder of priest Daniil Sysoev. He was his close friend, after his death he headed the charitable foundation "Missionary Center named after Priest Daniil Sysoev." A year and a half after the murder, Stanislavsky married a widow and adopted three daughters. Soon he was charged under article 132 of the Criminal Code (“Violent acts of a sexual nature”). The statement to the police was written by the eldest daughter of the priest. During the investigation, it turned out that the middle daughter allegedly also became a victim of the stepfather.

For more than a year, Stanislavsky has been held in the Butyrka pre-trial detention center. The investigation into his criminal case has been completed, the other day the Investigative Committee submitted the indictment for approval to the prosecutor's office. And just at that time, a video from the materials of the criminal case appeared on the Internet. On it, the priest’s middle daughter says that her stepfather not only assaulted, but also involved in “strange games”: for example, he forced him to beat him with a special whip with a brush (at this time he put on “shameful underpants”).

Is everything you say in the video true? Or is it a montage?

This is a real video, it was made in the principal's office of my school. But what I say is not entirely true. Can you do it in order?

Certainly.

When the father was killed, all the Sysoevs (relatives from his side) considered Sergey to be guilty of this.

Why? After all, it is proved that the killer is a completely different person. And the motive is known: criticism of Islam by the priest.

Remember how it all happened. Sergei that day came to his father for confession, he was the last in line. And in the end, dad stayed in the temple precisely because of him. That is, if not for Sergei, the father would have left earlier and remained alive.

And you and your sister thought so?

At first yes. Then I began to reason: after all, the killer could run into his father, leaving the temple, and still shoot him. And even worse - he could come to our house and kill the whole family. In general, I do not blame Sergei for the fact that because of him his father was detained.

Second moment. The murder happened in front of Sergei. He did nothing to prevent it, or to apprehend the perpetrator, after all. This was also incomprehensible to us.

He could just be confused - this is quite natural.

Maybe. Mom says that according to the CCTV footage, everything happened in less than a minute.

And then mom brings Sergei and says: "He will live with you and become your father." I wonder how you took it...

I don't remember it anymore. But I remember that he was kind, he gave us gifts. In general, at first I communicated well with Sergey. And the older sister, in my opinion, was in conflict with him from the first day. She is generally so combative: there was a case when she cursed the director of the school where she studied, and she was expelled for this. As a result, when she turned 16, she moved into Sergei's apartment (he gave it to her) and began to live separately. My sister was very pleased - at that age to have a separate housing and live as you want, and not as your parents tell you! After her departure, the first year was normal. Then it was as if I turned into Cinderella: I had to clean everything, look after their child (my mother and Sergey had a son). But I, in his opinion, was a bad Cinderella. And 4 years ago, conflicts began with my stepfather and with me.

Who provoked them?

He. He could yell at me because of any bullshit. Let’s say I didn’t take out the trash on time or didn’t do something else that he asked for. He often found fault with the fact that she allegedly looked at him the wrong way (this claim of his especially infuriated me). In general, they pressed me in every possible way. It got to the point where I was afraid to be at home. Sometimes I didn't want to come back from school. He didn't touch my little sister. She constantly "turned on the fool", and he said that he did not beat fools.

Did he fight when he was drunk?

At that time he began to drink. But when he drinks, he was kind, but sober - completely different. It's like there are two different person got along. One kind, with whom it is pleasant to communicate. And the second one is not just evil, but ferocious. The second one I was very afraid of. And most importantly - you do not know when it will be what. Therefore, it was scary to be at home.

Did you tell your mother about this?

Mom saw it all. Everything was obvious. I asked her directly: “Why don’t you protect me from him?” She replied, they say, there is nothing to protect. She said that it was my transitional age (then I was 14 years old), that it was my shortcomings. What are the disadvantages?!

In general, I came to my sister, asked her to take me to live with her. But she didn't take it!

What did she say?

She said that there was a condition: I should go to two of her friends, operatives, and tell them that Sergei was beating me. But she also came up with a story for me with a whip and shorts. I told them everything, as she ordered. Two days later, these two of her friends and another woman came to my school, they took me to the principal's office. And there I repeated the same invented story under the video (here it is now on the Internet).

And then your sister took you away?

No. I lived at home. Two days later, I told my mother everything. She listened in silence and left. On the same day, she told Sergei, but they decided that nothing terrible would happen, that the investigation would sort everything out. Nobody thought that Sergei would be imprisoned. And on February 11, 2016, he was taken away and has not been released since then.

Did they arrest your stepfather in front of you?

Yes, I remember how the riot police came in and handcuffed him. He didn't resist.

Still, which of your initial testimony was fiction?

About the whip and about the cowards. In principle, we never had any whip at home. I can't even imagine what she might look like. And what would the "shameful cowards" look like. But the very expression “shameful cowards” “walked” with us, my mother used it at some moments (such as: “Why are you walking around the apartment in shameful cowards?”).

Why did you decide to go after your sister?

I just wanted to live with her and was ready for anything. And she hated Sergei to the point of shaking. But she has a right to it. She really believes that Sergei is to blame for the death of her father.

You end up living with your mom. Maybe everything you say now is also under her influence?

My sister has always had a greater influence on me than my mother. By the way, she once saved my life: she literally pulled out from under the wheels of a car that ran over me (it still hurt me - there was a concussion, she broke her leg). I underwent a forensic psychological examination, and it just showed that I have an addiction to her, that I, on a subconscious level, consider her my savior and imitate her. In fact, I always wanted to be like my sister - she is very brave and strong. By the way, they didn’t want to file an examination in the UK, because it showed that there was no sexual violence.

I myself came to the police and said that there were no whips and sexual games, that it was all fiction. I said this many times during all the interrogations. But I continue to be considered a victim. Moreover, it turned out that the main accusation is based on my testimony, and since I was a minor, Sergei faces 8 to 15 years.

Sergei wrote to you from the pre-trial detention center?

Yes, we are in correspondence. He apologized many times for his behavior, for "pressing" me. He writes that he will never offend me again. I forgave him for everything. He teaches me in letters to play the guitar - what chords to take. He writes that he feels bad in jail. I really feel sorry for him, especially since I myself do not think that he deserves such punishment for his quarrelsome character. Yes, he was a bad parent, but he is not a molester (the accusation is shameful for him). I was asked - could I live with him as one family? She could, definitely. I'm sure he understood everything, and I won't let myself be offended.

My mother and I recently visited my grandmother on my father's side. They brought letters from Sergei, where he asks everyone for forgiveness. But Grandma didn't read. Grandmother believes that mother did not have the right to marry after the death of her father and she discredited the whole family. And then, for some reason, his grandmother sent these letters of Sergey to the Investigative Committee, they were attached to the criminal case.

It can be understood: after all, it is strange when letters are brought from someone who has taken the place of a beloved deceased son ...

Don't know. But Sergei just wanted to make peace.

What is your sister saying now?

We don't communicate much. She considers me a traitor. Mom says that she also betrayed the memory of her father. She recently got married, my mother and I were at the wedding. But my sister wants Sergey to sit down for many years, so that he disappears from our family forever.

Read the material: "The Siberian priest was accused of molesting underage parishioners"

The book is interesting and educational. I was very surprised that many priests and their families have to live on parishioner fees. We don't have a lot of people going to church. I thought that from Moscow there was a distribution for everyone. And if not, then why are they deducting 25% of their income? Pity our fathers.
They would write more about their lives and problems, maybe then people began to relate differently to the priest, and to their families, and to the Church, and most importantly, to faith in God.

Grade 5 out of 5 stars by Olga 05.01.2018 20:20

Read with great interest. After all, what do we know about the life of the clergy? Whatever the head, the revelation. Why are almost half of the priests from Ukraine, and mostly from the West? How to marry a future father? Are they always happy in marriage? Who "doesn't shine" to become a bishop, a patriarch? Is it a sin for a mother to wear jeans and make-up? What is the priest's income? When allowed intimacy between husband and wife living according to religious canons? Why doesn't the church "debunk" divorcing spouses? Alcohol and priests, what is better to give to a priest. Weddings and funerals in priestly families... Every now and then I quoted from the book to my friends, and they also heard about many things for the first time.
Recommend. The book is interesting, informative and, perhaps, for someone in something useful.

Grade 5 out of 5 stars from Olga