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Probably every person has at least one relative or friend who has already been buried. People always pay maximum attention to their loved ones. Even after a person’s death, there is a desire to visit his tomb and take care of his peace. But many do not know how to visit a cemetery correctly. There are days when going to the cemetery is possible, and even necessary. And, conversely, when it is better not to visit the dead.

When can you go to the cemetery:

*on the day of the funeral;

*on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after death;

*every year on the day of a person’s death;

*V memorial days– Monday and Tuesday of the week following Easter;

*Meat Saturday, the week preceding Lent;

*2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays of Lent;

*Trinity Saturday - the day before the feast of the Holy Trinity;

*Dmitrov Saturday is the first Saturday in November.

When not to go to the cemetery:

*Orthodoxy does not encourage visiting the graves of relatives on such Christian holidays like Easter, Annunciation and Christmas;

*Trinity is also not celebrated in the cemetery. On Trinity they go to church;

*it is believed that there is no need to go to the churchyard after sunset;

*women are not advised to visit the place of the dead during pregnancy or menstruation. But this is a personal choice of each representative of the fair sex.

Some sources report that it would be wrong to go to his tomb on the birthday of the deceased. You can just remember him kind words, among the family and loved ones of the deceased.

There are also some superstitions and rules of conduct in a churchyard.

How to behave in a cemetery:

If you are planning a trip to a cemetery, you should not wear clothes bright colors. The most suitable would be black or white. You can also choose items in muted tones from your wardrobe. Legs must be covered: wear pants or a long skirt. Shoes must also be closed. It is advisable to cover your head with a hat or a scarf.

When they go to the cemetery, they behave calmly, without unnecessary emotions. Avoid laughing or crying loudly. Don't swear.

Don't spit or litter. And if you need it out of necessity, find a suitable place for this outside the cemetery.

Upon arrival at the grave, a positive action would be to light a candle and remember the deceased.

You should not drink or eat near the gravestone. Arrange funeral dinner Houses.

Do not step on or jump over graves.

There is no need to touch other people's graves or restore order there, unless the relatives of the person buried there have asked you to do so.

In the case when you dropped something on the dead ground, it is better not to pick up this thing. If the fallen object is very important to you, when you pick it up, put something in its place (candies, cookies, flowers).

When leaving the cemetery, do not turn around, and, especially, do not return.

When you come home, wash your hands thoroughly (or better yet, do this at the cemetery), be sure to wash off the cemetery soil from your shoes, and wash the tools you used to clean the grave.

When to visit a cemetery, each person determines for himself. Of course, going to such places almost every day is not recommended. But you don’t need to forget about your loved ones either. Do as your heart tells you.

In a situation where you live far from the grave of your relatives or simply do not have the opportunity to visit them, but there is a desire to pay attention and remember them, go to church and light a candle for their repose.

You need to know that such candles are not placed on days Holy Week and days Holy Week.

Also in the church it is possible to order a memorial service (prayer for the dead) or lithium (intensified prayer) from the priest. You can pray yourself: read the Psalter or the litany performed by a layman.

Under any circumstances, remember your deceased loved ones, and when you come to their graves, behave appropriately, because a cemetery is sacred land, a resting place for the dead.

WHEN A CLOSE RELATIVE DIED. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO FOR A WHOLE YEAR.

In the first seven days after the death of a person, do not take him out of the house.no things.

On the 9th day after death, relatives go to the temple, order a memorial service, and set a second memorial table at home.The family of the deceased did not sit down at the first memorial table.

Now it’s the other way around: a family and nine other people sat at the table (three who washed the deceased, three who made a coffin, three who dug a hole).

In modern conditions, the number of guests may vary, because there are various government services that provide the necessary ritual services: the deceased is changed in the morgue, a coffin can be bought at a funeral supplies store, and the grave can also be prepared in advance. Therefore, there may be 3 - 6 - 9 invitees, or there may be no one.

On the 40th day After the death of a person, a third memorial table is held - “Sarakavitsy”, at which the family of the deceased, relatives, relatives, friends, and work colleagues are present. The church orders Sorokoust - forty liturgies.

From the day of the funeral until the 40th day, remembering the name of the deceased, we must pronounce a verbal formula-amulet for ourselves and all the living. At the same time, the same words are a symbolic wish for the deceased: “May he rest in peace,” thereby expressing the wish that his soul ends up in heaven.

After 40 days and over the next three years we will say a different formula-wish: “The kingdom of heaven to him.” Thus we wish the deceased afterlife in heaven. These words should be addressed to any deceased, regardless of the circumstances of his life and death. They are guided by the biblical commandment “Do not judge, lest you be judged.”

During the year following the death of a person, none of the family members has the moral right to take part in any holiday celebration.

None of the family members of the deceased (including the second degree of kinship) could get married during the period of mourning,

If a relative of the 1st -2nd degree of kinship has died in the family and not a year has passed since his death, then such a family does not have the right to paint eggs red for Easter (they must be white or some other color - blue, black, green) and accordingly take part in the celebrations of Easter night.

After the death of her husband, the wife is prohibited from washing anything for a year on the day of the week on which the disaster occurred.

For a year after death, everything in the house where the deceased lived remains in a state of peace or permanence: repairs cannot be made, furniture cannot be rearranged, nothing is given away or sold from the deceased’s belongings until the soul of the deceased reaches eternal peace.

During this year and all subsequent years, you can go to the cemetery only on Saturdays (except for the 9th, 40th day after death and church holidays honoring ancestors, such as Radunitsa or Autumn Grandfathers). This recognized by the church days of remembrance of the dead. Try to convince your relatives that they should not constantly visit the grave of the deceased, as they are harming their health.

The way you come to the cemetery is the same way you return.

Visit the cemetery before 12 noon.

Days special commemoration deceased during the year:

Meat Saturday- Saturday in the ninth week before Easter;

- Saturday in the second week of Lent;

Ecumenical Parents' Saturday- Saturday in the third week of Lent;

Ecumenical Parents' Saturday- Saturday in the fourth week of Lent;

Radunitsa- Tuesday in the second week after Easter;

Trinity Saturday- Saturday in the seventh week after Easter;

Dmitrievskaya Saturday- Saturday in the third week after Intercession (14.10).

Exactly one year later after death, the family of the deceased celebrates a memorial meal (“godya”) - the 4th, concluding memorial family-tribal table. It must be remembered that the living cannot be congratulated on their birthday in advance, and the final memorial table should be arranged either exactly a year later, or 1-3 days earlier.

On this day you need to go to the temple and order a memorial service for the deceased, go to the cemetery and visit the grave.

As soon as the last funeral meal is completed, the family is again included in the traditional scheme of holiday regulations folk calendar, becomes a full member of the community, has the right to take part in any family celebrations, including weddings.

A monument can only be erected on a grave a year after the person’s death. Moreover, it is necessary to remember the golden rule of folk culture: “Do not graze the soil of Pakravou da Radaunschy.” This means if the year of the deceased fell at the end of October, i.e. after the Intercession (and for the entire subsequent period up to Radunitsa), then the monument can only be erected in the spring, after Radunitsa.

After the monument is installed, the cross (usually a wooden one) is placed next to the grave for another year and then thrown away. It can also be buried under a flower bed or under a gravestone.

Get married (get married) after the death of one of the spouses, you can onlyin a year. If a woman got married a second time, then the rightful owner-owner new husband became only seven years later.

If the spouses were married, then after the death of the husband, his wife took his ring, and if she never married again, then both wedding rings were placed in her coffin.

If a husband buried his wife, then her wedding ring remained with him, and after his death, both rings were placed in his coffin, so that, having met in the Kingdom of Heaven, they would say: “I brought our rings with which the Lord God crowned us.

For three years They celebrate the birthday of the deceased and the day of his death. After this period, only the day of death and all annual church holidays commemoration of ancestors.

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Easter is the most main holiday per year.

The Church, taking into account the psychology of people, separates days of celebration and days of sadness. The joyful rejoicing that the Church communicates to believers at Easter is separated from the mood of sadness that accompanies the remembrance of the dead. Therefore, on Easter Day you are not supposed to go to the cemetery and not perform a funeral service.

If someone dies, and death on Easter is traditionally considered a sign of God’s mercy, then the funeral service is performed according to the Easter rite, which includes many Easter hymns.

To visit the cemetery, the Church appoints a special day - Radonitsa (from the word joy - after all, the Easter holiday continues), and this holiday is celebrated on the Tuesday after Easter week.

On this day, a funeral service is served and believers visit the cemetery to pray for the departed, so that Easter joy will be passed on to them.

THIS IS IMPORTANT! People began to visit cemeteries on Easter only during Soviet times, when churches were closed. People who felt the need to gather and share joy could not go to churches, which were closed, and went to the cemetery on Easter instead of going a week later. The cemetery seemed to replace a visit to the temple. And now that churches are open, so this Soviet-era tradition cannot be justified, it is necessary to restore church tradition: be in church on Easter Day and celebrate the joyful holiday, and go to the cemetery on Radonitsa.

We must remember that the tradition of leaving food and Easter eggs on graves is paganism, which was revived in the Soviet Union when the state persecuted the right-wing faith. When faith is persecuted, severe superstitions arise. The souls of our departed loved ones need prayer. From a church point of view, the ritual when they place vodka and black bread on the grave, and next to it a photograph of the deceased, is unacceptable: this, speaking modern language– a remake, because, for example, photography appeared a little over a hundred years ago: this means that this tradition is new.

As for commemorating the dead with alcohol: any kind of drunkenness is unacceptable. IN holy scripture the use of wine is permitted: “Wine makes glad the heart of a man” (Psalm 103:15), but warns against excess: “Do not get drunk with wine, for there is fornication in it” (Eph. 5:18). You can drink, but you can't get drunk. The deceased need ours earnest prayer, our pure heart and a sober mind, alms given for them, but not vodka.

How the dead are remembered on Easter

On Easter, many people visit the cemetery where the graves of their loved ones are located.

Unfortunately, in some families there is a blasphemous custom of accompanying these visits to the graves of their relatives with wild drunken revelry. But even those who do not celebrate pagan drunken funeral feasts at the graves of their loved ones, which are so offensive to every Christian feeling, often do not know when on Easter days it is possible and necessary to remember the dead. The first commemoration of the dead takes place on the second week, after St. Thomas Sunday, on Tuesday.

The basis for this commemoration is, on the one hand, the remembrance of the descent of Jesus Christ into hell, connected with the Resurrection of St. Thomas, and, on the other, the permission of the Church Charter to carry out the usual commemoration of the dead, starting with St. Thomas Monday. According to this permission, believers come to the graves of their loved ones with the joyful news of the Resurrection of Christ, hence the day of remembrance itself is called Radonitsa.

How to properly remember the dead

Prayer for the departed is the greatest and most important thing we can do for those who have passed on to another world.

By and large, the deceased does not need either a coffin or a monument - all this is a tribute to traditions, albeit pious ones. But forever living soul The deceased experiences a great need for our constant prayer, because she herself cannot do good deeds with which she would be able to appease God. That is why prayer at home for loved ones, prayer in the cemetery at the grave of the deceased is the duty of everyone Orthodox Christian. But commemoration in the Church provides special help to the deceased.

Before visiting the cemetery, you should come to the church at the beginning of the service, submit a note with the names of your deceased relatives for commemoration at the altar (it is best if this is a commemoration at the proskomedia, when a piece is taken out of a special prosphora for the deceased, and then as a sign of washing away his sins will be lowered into the Chalice with the Holy Gifts). After the Liturgy, a memorial service must be celebrated. The prayer will be more effective if the one commemorating on this day himself partakes of the Body and Blood of Christ. It is very useful to donate to the church, give alms to the poor with a request to pray for the departed.

How to behave in a cemetery

Arriving at the cemetery, you need to light a candle, perform a lithium (this word literally means intense prayer. To perform the rite of lithium when remembering the dead, you need to invite a priest. Then clean the grave or just be silent, remember the deceased. There is no need to eat or drink in the cemetery, especially It is unacceptable to pour vodka into a grave mound - this insults the memory of the dead. The custom of leaving a glass of vodka and a piece of bread on the grave “for the deceased” is a relic of paganism and should not be observed in the world. Orthodox families. There is no need to leave food on the grave; it is better to give it to the beggar or the hungry.

When can you go to the cemetery:

*on the day of the funeral;

*on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after death;

*every year on the day of a person’s death;

*on memorial days - Monday and Tuesday of the week following Easter;

*Meat Saturday, the week preceding Lent;

*2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays of Lent;

*Trinity Saturday - the day before the feast of the Holy Trinity;

*Dmitrov Saturday is the first Saturday in November.

When not to go to the cemetery:

*Orthodoxy does not encourage visiting the graves of relatives on Christian holidays such as Easter, Annunciation and Christmas;

*Trinity is also not celebrated in the cemetery. On Trinity they go to church;

*it is believed that there is no need to go to the churchyard after sunset;

*women are not advised to visit the place of the dead during pregnancy or menstruation. But this is a personal choice of each representative of the fair sex.

Some sources report that it would be wrong to go to his tomb on the birthday of the deceased. You can simply remember him with a kind word, among the family and loved ones of the deceased.

Upon arrival at the grave, a positive action would be to light a candle and remember the deceased. You should not drink or eat near the gravestone. Host a memorial dinner at home.

Do not step on or jump over graves. There is no need to touch other people's graves or restore order there, unless the relatives of the person buried there have asked you to do so.

In the case when you dropped something on the dead ground, it is better not to pick up this thing. If the fallen object is very important to you, when picking it up, put something in its place (sweets, cookies, flowers).

When leaving the cemetery, do not turn around, much less do not return. When you come home, wash your hands thoroughly (or better yet, do this at the cemetery), be sure to wash off the cemetery soil from your shoes, and wash the tools you used to clean the grave.

Based on materials from the news agency "Orthodoxy and Peace"

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One of the most important elements The culture of every nation is the remembrance of the dead. In the treasuries of the people and philosophical thought you can find a lot wise sayings on this topic, but even without them there is no need to explain the importance of this custom, which comes from the depths of centuries and invisibly connects all human generations with each other. Remembrance is especially important for those for whom the loss of loved ones is still a fresh wound. For them, visiting cemeteries is one of the ways to cope with their grief.

All religions of the world agree with the folk custom, but they also warn about the undesirability of frequent visits to cemeteries, and Orthodox Church, for example, even shares the so-called “days of joy” and “days of sadness” that fall on Easter (one of the main Christian holidays dedicated to the resurrection of Christ). Psychics also agree with religions, claiming that a cemetery is a center of dead energy, and a person who visits it too often not only perceives it in full, but also carries the so-called. "dead land" to your home. That is why it is so important, in their opinion, not to take anything from the cemetery, and upon returning from it (after cleaning the graves or visiting them on certain days), be sure to wash your hands and wipe your feet, leaving this soil outside the threshold.

Since the custom of remembering the dead is associated with many signs, superstitions and the most contradictory information, especially in rural areas, it is not surprising that very often one can hear a question addressed equally to Orthodox priests and ordinary elderly people: when is it possible and when not to go to the cemetery ? Surprisingly, the answers are very different. For example, when asked whether it is possible to visit a cemetery on Easter, one priest will answer negatively, another will say that this is not according to the canon, but nevertheless is not forbidden, but in villages, on the contrary, there is often an opinion that it is possible. In addition, there are stories about how the priests themselves visited cemeteries on Easter and blessed Easter cakes there (such a story, for example, is told by the rector of the church in the village of Maksakovka, Komi Republic, Father Ignatius). Who is right and on what days should one actually visit the place of final rest?

"Time Machine"

Let's start with Easter - more precisely, with a story not about it, but about its history in the twentieth century (this will help to understand the nature of some customs that are widespread in the post-Soviet space to this day). Before the 1917 revolution, it was not just a big religious holiday, but also a state holiday, for which, according to the law of 1897, four days off were given (Friday and Saturday of the Holy Week preceding Easter, and Monday and Tuesday of the following). Thus the residents pre-revolutionary Russia got a little Easter holiday. The first seven days after the holiday were called “Easter week,” and after it the so-called Easter week began. Radonitsa (or Radunitsa) – the oldest folk holiday commemoration of the dead, which arose in the pre-Christian era and is almost the only one (with the possible exception of the Trinity) fully accepted and supported by Orthodoxy. There was no precisely defined day for Radonitsa: it was celebrated on the first Sunday after Easter, and on the following Monday, and on Tuesday. The only thing that can be noted in this regard was a rule common to all localities: they commemorated the dead (and accordingly visited the cemetery) no later than the 9th day after the Resurrection of Christ.

The widespread distribution of Radonitsa is evidenced by the fact that in Russian it has 14 dialect synonyms, in Ukrainian – 5, in Belarusian – 7, and in the border Ukrainian-Polish-Belarusian-Russian Polesie it is called “Joyful Grandfathers”. By the way, the last name is worth paying attention to, as well as some synonyms such as “Babsky Great Day” or “Dead Great Day”, which have taken root in the Ukrainian language. After the baptism of Rus', the people's consciousness firmly connected Easter as a celebration of the resurrection of the Son of God and the resurrection of all the dead on Judgment Day, which he promised through Scripture, which contributed to the emergence of the following interpretation: Easter is general holiday for all the living and the dead; on this day, God releases souls to earth so that they can celebrate this day with the living, and allows them to stay together for a whole week. Souls return to Radonitsa, and this was also enshrined in some synonymous names for this holiday: “Seeing Off” (or “Provodki”) - in Ukrainian and “Navyi Prody” - in Russian. That is, Easter has become a symbol of the unification of the dead and living world, supported by gospel story about the descent of Jesus into hell these days and the liberation of all sinners from it, and Radonitsa was perceived as its natural continuation: living people escort the souls of dead relatives back to the cemetery. Despite the fact that this was a non-canonical interpretation of the essence of the holiday, the church did not interfere with it and even encouraged it in some ways - for example, it preferred to call the “dead” “deceased”, in which the popular consciousness saw further confirmation of its rightness. The only thing she warned believers against was excessive revelry and scope during celebrations, characteristic of the Slavic soul (especially after strict Lent).

As you know, the Soviet government did not really favor Orthodox faith and her servants, and that’s putting it mildly. Having taken Karl Marx’s phrase about religion as “the opium of the people” out of context (while completely forgetting that in Marx’s time opium was a painkiller, and its narcotic properties were discovered later), she took it as a slogan and began to act in accordance with him. During the years of the Civil War, clergy were among the first to be subjected to various repressions, and even Patriarch Tikhon’s (V.I. Bellavin (1865-1925)) search for a compromise between the Soviet government and the church was not particularly successful. No assurances of his about the loyalty of the church to the authorities, no help during the confiscation of valuables to help those affected by the famine of 1920-1921. (Tikhon allowed to “donate to the needs of the hungry” church utensils and decorations “without liturgical use”) could not cancel the fact of the 1918 anathema and public condemnation of his actions Soviet power during the revolution and civil war. The reaction was appropriate: temples and churches were closed and desecrated, and all previous holidays were declared a “relic of the old regime” and prohibited. Naturally, Easter was included in this list: its open celebration at the state level was prohibited (as, in fact, Radonitsa). An exception was made only for the elderly, but against them (as well as against believers of various age categories, brought up in an appropriate environment and not succumbing to atheistic propaganda), the Soviet government used moral pressure, blocking the approaches to the surviving churches on Saturday and Sunday with volunteers. The logic was not only in preventing parishioners from entering: active non-party people, sympathizers of the Soviet regime, Komsomol members and communists were involved in the cordon, and among them there must have been (and there were) acquaintances and friends of those who went to the service, who reported their names to the party and Komsomol cells. It is not difficult to understand that the consequences for believers could be the most unpleasant and disastrous.

This state of affairs led to the fact that people, under the pretext of “visiting graves,” began to go to cemeteries on Easter Day, where they celebrated Easter together with their deceased relatives and friends. This did not contradict the popular understanding of Easter, which we have already mentioned, and contributed to its final unification with Radonitsa, albeit in a slightly distorted version under the influence of external circumstances. This is how a custom was born, which still misleads many residents of post-Soviet countries.

This continued until 1941. During the war, when the USSR was looking not only for material, but also for moral support wherever it could and in whatever way it could (it is known that on the night of November 19, 1942, before the offensive of the Soviet troops near Stalingrad, a special plane even secretly flew over their positions, having board the relics of the famous commander Tamerlane), relations between the authorities and the church noticeably warmed. Stalin more than once had long conversations in his office with the locum tenens of the patriarchal throne, and then the Patriarch of Moscow and All Rus' Sergius (I.I. Stragorodsky, (1867 - 1944)), and on April 4, 1942, just before the next Easter, a decree was issued, officially allowing its celebration and allowing everyone, despite the curfew and blackout regime, to be on the streets all night.

The consequences of this order were preserved in the archives of the Russian FSB. Thus, according to reports from NKVD officers, that night in Moscow alone, about 85 thousand people attended festive services, and in some churches their number reached 4-6 thousand. It is unlikely that this number was exaggerated: the department knew very well what consequences unreliable information of this kind could entail for the performers. Of course, many skeptics immediately interpreted this step as, in modern terms, a very smart PR campaign, designed not only to ensure support for the power of Soviet believers, but also to gain additional points in the eyes of the allies in the anti-Hitler coalition, but the believers did not care at all. The same reports preserved carefully recorded words of gratitude to Stalin that day, which were spoken by visitors to Moscow churches, and they were completely sincere.

After the war, Easter was no longer officially banned, although there was still opposition to its celebration in the pre-war spirit, especially in the outback. One such celebration was witnessed in 1961 by a mathematics teacher in a rural school, the future world-famous writer A. I. Solzhenitsyn, who reflected his impressions in one of the stories in the “Tiny” series. In many, even unchurched families, the tradition of celebrating Easter at home was born (and the archives of RIA Novosti preserved many amateur photographs on this topic), after which people went to the cemetery on the same day to remember their relatives and celebrate with them. Thus, the pre-war custom became even more entrenched in the consciousness of Soviet people.

Until the collapse of the USSR, the attitude towards Easter represented an amazing duality inherent in the very essence of Soviet power. Starting in the 70s of the 20th century, closer to the holiday, so-called products began to be sold in stores. “Spring” cupcake, very, very similar in shape Easter cake, and state printing houses - first Moscow, then regional - produced Easter cards. Of course, there were no inscriptions on them like “Happy Easter,” but Easter elements were invariably present. Festive services continued to attract crowds of people, and in Moscow it often got to the point that on Saturday the routes of buses and trolleybuses passing by the most visited churches were canceled: there were so many of their visitors that they could not fit either in the premises or inside the fence and blocked the sidewalk and roadway. On the other hand, Easter was still not officially recognized, the days following it were working days, and the measures of influence became more sophisticated and very effective. For example, on the night of Easter Saturday On Sunday, television (or a rural club) would show some popular foreign film (most often a French action movie or comedy), and large discos would be held in the outback. Naturally, the choice was often made not in favor of worship. There was a similar attitude towards the commemoration of the dead: since the traditional days for this were working days, the custom arose “ Parents' Day", for which they spontaneously chose a day off on the 7th day after Easter - Sunday. Visiting the cemetery on Easter was also preserved, especially since many graveyards in the outback were located directly next to churches, and thus people killed two birds with one stone. Those who were forced to leave their homes tried to go to the graves of relatives during vacation, which led to the fact that cemeteries were visited not on any specific day, but on any convenient day.

The customs that developed under the influence of realities led to the fact that when, with the collapse of the USSR in 1991, the church began to openly indicate the inadmissibility of uncontrolled visits to cemeteries, this led to numerous questions and confusion. Its echo is still the different understanding we mentioned of the same holiday by residents of the post-Soviet province and the difference of opinion of Orthodox priests on this matter. However... is it a difference of opinion?

When is the right time to visit cemeteries on Easter?

These days, the answer to this question involves two seemingly mutually exclusive approaches. On the one hand, the church, speaking about “days of joy” and “days of sorrow,” categorically does not advise mixing them with each other. The logic is simple: when visiting a cemetery on Easter day, it is difficult to resist grief for the untimely departed, and even the promise of a future resurrection is of little ability to console a person. Meanwhile, the essence of Easter is, first of all, the joy of victory over death, and this is how all holiday chants and prayers interpret it. The Church still welcomes visiting the cemetery on Easter days, but advises doing so in such a way as not to confuse one with the other - that is, simply put, to go to the deceased relatives on Radonitsa, also called St. Thomas Week. The question is different - what to do if the 9th day after Easter is still a working day? The answer to this can be found in pre-revolutionary folk traditions: as we have already said, Radonitsa was celebrated in different parts of Russia in any of three days– the first Sunday after Easter (7th), Monday (8th) and Tuesday (9th). Church Charter allows prayers for the dead from Monday. It is best, of course, to go to the cemetery on the 9th day - this is quite consistent with folk ideas about the visiting of the living world by the souls of the dead - but if this is not possible, then it is quite acceptable to go to the cemetery on Sunday or Monday . The only thing that the clergy warn against is that you should not go to cemeteries after Radonitsa, that is, on Wednesday and other days: it is simply pointless since Christian point vision. Unless at will...

On the other hand, in the Bible and the Orthodox Church Charter there really is no prohibition on visiting the cemetery on Easter, and from a formal point of view it is possible to go there on this day. But, as we have already said, this is contrary to the spirit of the holiday, and in a dispute between form and essence, preference should always be given to the essence. In addition, there is one more important nuance: during Easter week in churches they do not commemorate the dead and do not read the magpie, postponing this until Radonitsa. If someone dies on Easter, the church regards this as God's grace both grace and the funeral service for the deceased are performed according to the Easter rite, not as on other days. Before visiting cemeteries, priests advise you to go to the temple, pray for the deceased and take communion yourself.

As for the story we mentioned about a priest visiting a cemetery on Easter Day, this actually happened several years ago in one of the Russian cities on the orders of the abbot and, most likely, was not intended to maintain tradition, but to unobtrusively educate. It is known that many clergy, explaining to their parishioners the delicate subtleties of the celebration of Easter and Radonitsa, do not talk about a direct ban on visiting the cemetery on Easter (they cannot talk about it), but only highlight priorities and place semantic emphasis differently - they say, it will be better, if you do this...

When can you still go to cemeteries?

In addition to Radonitsa, there are several more days a year when people go to the cemetery:

1. the day of the funeral of the deceased person (which goes without saying).
2. 3rd, 9th and 40th days after his death.
3. annually on the day a person passes away.
4. meat-eating (the first universal parental) Saturday, after which Maslenitsa begins.
5. 2nd, 3rd and 4th Saturdays of Great Lent.
6. Trinity (universal parent) Saturday is the day before the holiday of Trinity.
7. Dmitrov Saturday is the first Saturday in November.

In many Russian regions, as well as in the Balkans, these Saturdays were considered the main days of commemoration of deceased ancestors, who, according to popular beliefs, also, like on Easter, come to visit their relatives. After visiting the cemetery, a home funeral dinner is expected, usually consisting of an unpaired number of dishes, etc. “Grandfather's evening”, during which they try to have measured conversations and remember all those who have passed away. For their souls, they set aside a little from each dish, light a candle and place it in the grain, and pour alcohol into a separate glass. At the end of the evening, the dishes are usually not removed from the table until the next day.

Often in rural areas you can also find the custom of going to the cemetery a few days before the funeral Sunday or in the period between May 1st and 9th, when they traditionally went to clean the mass graves of soldiers who died during the Great Patriotic War. Patriotic War, and at the same time clean up the graves of relatives. Priests say this about this: they say, there is no clear schedule for when to care for graves, but it is best to adhere to established traditions.

It is definitely not recommended by the church to visit cemeteries on the main Christian holidays - Christmas, Annunciation and others. If someone close to you died these days, then to resolve this conflict it is better to turn to Orthodox priest, although it must be said that the popular consciousness, faced with such a choice, did not hesitate and often chose a visit to the cemetery with burial, motivating its choice with the well-known saying “Death and the homeland do not wait for gods.” However, neither priests, nor psychics, nor folk wisdom they do not advise going to cemeteries after sunset, and all sorts of statements like “they won’t harm their own people, so you can even spend the night in the graveyard” are regarded by them as superstitions. You can also come across advice not to visit cemeteries even on designated days:

1. pregnant women.
2. those women who have their period (although this advice is not strict, and in the end the church leaves the final decision to the discretion of the women themselves).
3. on the birthday of the deceased, which is also best spent with family, remembering him with a kind word.

How to behave in a cemetery

The Orthodox Church does not welcome stable folk traditions:

1. eat and drink in the cemetery while visiting graves to remember the dead.
2. pour vodka into the grave.
3. leave food on the grave.

According to the canon, on the days of visiting the cemetery, you should clean the grave, light a candle, pray for the soul of the deceased (for this you can invite a priest) and simply remain silent in memory of him. The funeral lunch/dinner is best done at home. You cannot step on graves or jump over them, clean up other people’s graves unless the relatives of those buried in them ask, and take anything away from the cemetery. If you dropped something, it is better to leave it there. If the dropped item is very important, when taking it, you need to put something in return (sweets, flowers, cookies) - that is, “buy off death,” as psychics say, otherwise a dead person will soon appear in the house. After visiting the cemetery, you should definitely wash your hands, clean your shoes from the “dead earth” and the tools that were used to clean the grave. It is also encouraged to give alms on this day, and it is recommended to distribute the food stored for the cemetery to the hungry and the poor as a “memory of souls.”

Conclusion

Remembering the dead is a very important part human culture, but it is equally important to do it correctly. Unfortunately, no one can know if they are right folk customs and the instructions of the church or not, and the behavior of a person on the days of remembrance are echoes of his secret hopes and faith that everything will ultimately be good for everyone. If so, then it is best to celebrate memorial days with mandatory visit cemeteries so that later you will not be ashamed of your behavior or ignorance of something - neither in front of the living nor in front of the dead.

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Fortune telling on bones is one of the methods ancient witchcraft. Sometimes they are called Zara, but more often - dice - these are cubes with inclusions on each of the six sides. With the help of dice you can find out your destiny, the answer to an exciting question, etc.

Such fortune-telling is not dangerous, so anyone can carry it out, but certain rules must be followed.

Fortune telling with bones

This dice divination method is very simple, but requires concentration. You need to take one dice and select the period for which the forecast is made, for example, a week, one day, a month, etc. Then you should try to relax, clearly formulate the question and fully concentrate on it. It does not need to be said out loud; it is important that the wording is clear. Next, you should throw the die on a hard surface and look at the value of the number.

When guessing, always focus as best you can.

• ● — Stability. As a rule, one falls to people who have already achieved what they wanted, but have concerns about their future. But in reality there is nothing to fear, you just need to stick to the chosen road. The fortuneteller does not need any changes now. Expected in the next 2 weeks good news. Minor health problems are possible: eyes, hypertension, heart.
• ●● — Fortune for the fortuneteller will be changeable. Twos indicate an unstable situation. A person needs to take the initiative, intervene in the current course of events, but not by force, but correctly (diplomatically): you can try to find a compromise, give in somewhere. As for activities, in the near future it is better to engage in spiritual work, creative or scientific activity. If a fortuneteller plans to change her place of residence or job, then it is better to postpone this for another 3 months. Important information is expected within 2 weeks, improvement within a year financial situation. Possible minor disorders of the digestive tract or liver.
• ●●● — The number is very lucky, especially for entrepreneurs. A recently started business will be completed successfully, but the fortuneteller must not forget about himself and take time to rest. Frequent stress and anxiety can cause physical and nervous disorders. It is better to devote the next week to family and walks in the fresh air.
• ●●●●- The number is very favorable for creative people- writers, artists, musicians. During this period, it is recommended to hold exhibitions, concerts, and various kinds of performances - they will be successful. For entrepreneurs and employees, this is a time of personal change: the birth of a child, wedding, etc.
• ●●●●● — A number indicating risk. A fortuneteller is prone to various adventures and adventures. Most likely, he is tormented by the fear of losing a large amount money. To get rid of it, you need to make an action plan and, no matter what, stick to it. These recommendations apply to both business and personal spheres. In general, the planned period will be successful.
• ●●●●●● — The state of the fortuneteller does not cause any concern: he is confident in himself and no obstacles will lead him astray from his intended path. However, we must remember that excess self-confidence can lead to a loss of control over the current situation, in which case any surprises may turn out to be unpleasant. You need to control your actions and accept final decisions only after careful consideration and weighing of all the pros and cons.

Gypsy fortune telling

People have always been surprised by the ability gypsy people predict the future. Wandering to many places, the gypsies earned their living by witchcraft, fortune telling, selling horses, music and various performances. However, most often the gypsies carried out fortune telling for love on cards, bones, along lines on the hand, etc. Their predictions have always been unique, since they preserved the mystery of ritual and interpretation of signs that came to them from time immemorial.

Below is gypsy fortune telling on dice is very antique and effective. For the ritual, you will need a sheet of paper on which to draw a circle with a diameter of about 35-40 cm. After this, having made a wish, you need to take 3 dice and throw them into the circle, and then count the resulting number and look at its designation in the interpreter. If on the second attempt all the cubes are outside the circle, then fortune telling should be postponed for at least 2 weeks.

• 1 – the number foretells that the wish will come true in the near future
• 2 – unfortunately, the wish is not destined to come true
• 3 – the number promises good news and surprises, your wish will certainly come true, you just need to wait a little
• 4 – a person will expect unpleasant news within 10 days; during this period it is better not to do anything
• 5 – a pleasant acquaintance awaits, which will develop into mutual love
• 6 – the number warns of losses or thefts. In addition, for 10 days it is not recommended to start quarrels with your loved one, there is a high probability of separation from him

If three 6s were rolled, then the gypsies said that it was good sign, but not for everyone - it all depends on human nature.